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Husband is the head of the wife July 5, 2007

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Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:22-24

Sometimes we (man) have some shallow understanding about the above verses – wives submit to your husbands and husband is the head of wife. We thought that to submit means to obey and husband is the head of the wife actually means husband has the right to control over his wife. Normally a husband will tell his wife, “I am talking to you now, you better listen and do what I say, don’t ask any question, just submit because I am the head!”

Wow, this is rather harsh! Well, you said I am not like that; I am very loving and caring. Wait till you quarrel with your wife, you will see many of your actions and words are influenced by such kind of thought.

In fact, the phrase, husband is the head of the wife has broader meaning than that. It should not be use loosely. It is not about controlling someone. It’s about leading, protecting and providing.

Husband should take up the role of leadership. It is not just making sure that there is food on the table or making some decisions pertaining to finance, family or children although they are important. But what is needed most is the ability to lead and also to be a role model for the children. To lead encompass the ability to cast down vision, to be clear of God’s leading and also to walk in God’s way. The husband must rise up to the position of a leader in the family.

As a leader, he is also a role model for the children. His goal is to teach them how to develop a strong relationship with the God. Next, he is to help them to discover the joy of obedience and the importance of building depth in their character. He must train them on the practical skills to survive in this world. Lastly, he must also prepare his children for marriage.

Next, the husband must protect the family. The father is a guardian for the family. He must protect the family from criticism, evil influence, dangers of youthful desires and also physical and spiritual calamity. He must pray for the family.

Lastly, the husband must provide for the family. The husband is responsible for providing the physical and spiritual food for the family. He cannot be lazy but must work to provide income for the family. He is also responsible for the spiritual condition of the family. He is to build a spiritual altar at home.

Well, wedding preparation, waiting for the big day and getting married is exciting but that’s only the beginning. What’s more important is learning how to be a GOOD HUSBAND. A good husband leads, protects and provides for the needs of the wife and the family.