Expectations June 13, 2007
Posted by Han in : Family and Children , trackbackRecently I came across a survey on the husband and wife’s expectation towards each other.
It is quite interesting and honestly, it will definitely helps in enhancing both husband and wife relationship. Do not be too bothered with the validity of the survey; it’s just some pointers for you to reflect.
Wife’s expectation of their husband:
1) Husband to love their wife.
2) Know how to lead the family.
3) Time with the family.
4) To help in raising children.
5) Be thoughtful, think of their wife.
6) A good listener.
7) Show appreciation.
8) Share your feeling.
9) To be clean, tidy and neat.
10) Show understanding.
Husband’s expectation of their wife:
1) Be a good mother.
2) Good cook.
3) Good homemaker.
4) Hospitable.
5) Respectful.
6) Good organizer.
7) Prayerful.
8) Creative and innovative.
9) Active.
10) Good self-esteem.
The above list may not be the exact representation of your expectations but what I am trying to do is to bring to your awareness about your expectation towards your spouse.
Many a times we have these uncommunicated expectations towards our spouse. As it is uncommunicated, we often think that our spouse should know. But the fact is that they really don’t know! And this is where the valcano erupted. We started to feel dissatisfied, discouraged and unloved.
Expectations need to be communicated! This problem can be easily solved if we talk to our spouse and discuss it openly. This is really a good way of preventing dissatisfaction, promoting understanding and enhancing the relationship.
Comments»
i believe, the best is to put our expectation onto God. why? becoz God is able to meet our expectation…
we can put our expectation on men, but men are not perfect…we can fail…but God will not.
eg. expect God to change a person instead of us changing the person…in the process, God is able to change us too. ..to accept the person…cool eh?
Hi Lynnwei, while reading ur comment, I think we should hv a proper way of handling expectation. First and foremost (which is what you said), hand it over to God, not us but God is the one doing the changing. Then evaluate our expectation (whether it is too much or not). Lastly communicate it out to our spouse. Come to think about it, it takes time to work out. It is a process. Cannot be rushed! My main concern is do not let the underlying or uncomunicated dissatisfaction affect the relationship and thus unfruitful in the ministry.